be a martyr in the fight against domestic violence is certainly
not something Crystal Brame intended..."
'I Love My Mom So Much And She Loved Me'
May 10, 2003 at 5:28 PM PDT
Updated: Aug 31, 2006
By Kevin Reece
To be a martyr in the fight against domestic violence is certainly not something Crystal Brame intended.
As she was laid to rest on the day before Mother's day, that is exactly what she is becoming.
"The unspeakable way that Crystal was taken from us has left a hole
with nothing in it's place but pain and frustration. It's a living
nightmare we can't wake from," says Brad Chatfield.
Hundreds attended Crystal Brame's funeral Saturday, sharing in that nightmare.
But the two who had lost the most sat quietly in the front row;
Crystal's 8-year-old daughter Hailey, and 5-year-old son David Jr.
At times the pastor spoke directly to them.
"She loved being their mom," said Pastor Mark Tonne from Chapel Hill
Presbyterian Church. "She was a great mom, wasn't she? Yes, she was
Hailey Brame offered her own tribute in an essay read by the Pierce
County Sheriff's Department Chaplain. "She was the best mom in the
whole world, she never treated me or little David mean. She always
treated me and little David nice. Her priority was me and little
David. I love my mom so much and she loved me, " Hailey wrote.
A video tribute showed Crystal Brame the ballet dancer, the woman
fluent in French and American Sign Language, the woman who volunteered
at her children's schools and always gave of herself.
In her death several wondered if Crystal could give of herself again.
"If this casket is not a wake up call about how quickly violence can
spin out of control then you cannot be awakened. To the angry violent
person, this moment cries out 'get some help now before it is too
In the nightmare of these past 2 weeks this is what her family clings
to now - that Crystal will live on through her children and through
the rest of us fighting domestic violence together.
"We can spread the word far and wide about the anguish Crystal
suffered. We can convey the message to those who are still suffering
in silence that they are not alone. And we can help prevent this
tragedy from ever happening again. That would be Crystal's greatest
legacy," says Chatfield.
Just an hour after her funeral ended, several hundred domestic
violence advocates and victims gathered in Tacoma's wright park in
They want to encourage everyone to fight domestic violence in
Crystal's name. They ask people don't ignore it, get involved because
you truly could save someone's life.