My wife Patty and I didn't understand the warning signs of domestic violence until after our daughter Crystal was stolen from us in our police chief son-in-law's heinous murder-suicide - witnessed by our young grandchildren.

We want everyone to know what we didn't. We also work steadily toward nationwide changes in how officer-involved domestic violence is addressed. I am working to fulfill the promise I made to our daughter Crystal at her hospital bedside before she died - that I would do all that I can so that what happened to her won't happen again.


I do not charge a speakers fee. Below is a partial list.




  Mar. 26, 2011 - Lakewood, WA



"Reach One Teach One"

DV Prevention & Awareness


Featured Speaker: Lane Judson


Crossover Christian Center

Saturday, March 26, 2011

10506 Bridgeport Way SW

Lakewood, WA



 Feb. 2, 2011 - Lakewood, WA


KLAY AM 1180 Radio

Show: "Terry's Talk"

Guest: Lane Judson

Terry's Talk guest this week is Lane Judson. Father of Crystal Judson. Lane will talk about The Crystal Judson Family Justice Center and share a passion to help us become aware of the sign of domestic abuse of both men and women and how to recover from emotional control.


Jan. 25, 2011 - Port Orchard, WA



Featured speaker: Lane Judson

Soroptomist International

of Port Orchard, Washington.

January 25th, 2011



VISION: Be the leading international organization of business

and professional women united through volunteer efforts to

enable women and girls to live their dreams, take control of

their lives, and live according to their own values.

MISSION: To improve the lives of women and girls in local

communities and throughout the world.




  Oct. 10, 2010 - Tumwater, WA


Tags - Best Practices In Addressing Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault A Coordinated Response Sponsors Office Of Crime Victim Advocacy, Stop Grant Award Olympia City Attorney’s        Office State Farm Insurance Thurston County Dv/Sa Task Force Thurston County Prosecutor’s Office Thurston County Sheriff’s Office Washington State Labor And Industries Guest Speaker LT. MARK WYNN RETIRED



Aug. 26, 2010 - Cathlemet, WA

Domestic Violence Training for

Law Enforcement and Advocates

Featured: Lane Judson

Sponsored by the

Wahkiakum County Prosecutor's Office



June 9, 2010 - Longview, WA


Intimate Partner Sexual Violence, Stalkers,


Officer-Involved-Domestic Violence

Awareness Training


      Cowlitz Regional Conference Center

      1900 7th Avenue

      Longview, WA  98632

      8 a.m. - 5 p.m.

This training is funded by OCVA/STOP Grant FY09 and

is sponsored by the Kelso Police Department.

For REGISTRATION contact Captain Vern W. Thompson at or phone at 360-577-3401.



  May 18, 2010 - Portland, OR


Officer Involved Domestic Violence

Training for PEER Support members

Lane Judson will be presenting

    For: Portland Police Bureau, Family Services Division

    At:  Sellwood Baptist Church, 1104 SE Spokane St. Portland 97202



  May 12-13, 2010 - Pease, MN


Lane Judson will be speaking on Domestic Violence

at the

Northern Lights Ballroom and Banquet Center


May 11th and 12th, 2010, 9 a.m - Noon both days.



10376 112th Avenue

Pease, MN 56353

(320) 369-4622

Sponsored by

Pearl Crisis Center, 1-800-933-6914



  May 11, 2010 - Milaca, MN



Hear Lane's Story


May 11 2010

Zion Lutheran Church - Milaca

Tuesday 7pm





  April 30, 2010 - Bellingham, WA



Each year, over 200 business leaders, politicians, service providers, and community members join together at the Victory Over Violence Luncheon to celebrate survivors' victories over violence and support the essential crisis intervention and prevention education services provided by DVSAS. 

Lane Judson will be the keynote speaker at the DVSAS Victory Over Violence luncheon  to discuss the tragedy that forever changed their lives, and the work he and his wife have done in keeping their promise to Crystal. DVSAS will also present the Kathleen Marshall Award to a an individual who has gone above and beyond their scope of duty to support victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.

Call DVSAS of Whatcom County to RSVP, (360) 671-5714


  June 9th-10th, 2009 - Boise, ID


Promoting Peace


in Domestic Relationships


16th Annual


Two Days In June Training Conference on Crime Victim Assistance



Lane & Patty Judson


Where: Doubletree Riverside


Boise, Idaho

Idaho Council on Domestic Violence and Victim Assistance


  May 6-8th, 2009 - Vancouver, WA


Domestic Violence Investigation Conference


Key Note Speaker:


Lane Judson


Officer Involved Domestic Violence

Free Training Sponsored by the GTEA Grant

& Clark County Sheriff’s Office

The Heathman Lodge, 7801 NE Greenwood Drive, Vancouver, WA 98662, 1-888-475-3100




Apr. 23, 2009 - Purdy, WA



 Interaction Transition Presents


Who could Crystal call?

Thursday, April 23rd @ 6:30 & 7:30 pm

Washington Women's Correctional Center

Washington Corrections Center for Women

9601 Bujacich Road NW

Gig Harbor, WA 98332-8300
(253) 858-4200

Come and hear Lane Judson share the tragic story of his daughter, Crystal Brame, who was murdered by her husband, David Brame, Tacoma Chief of Police. Mr. Judson promised Crystal to do whatever he could to make sure this does not ever, ever, ever happen again.

You won’t want to miss this empowering event!



  Oct. 9, 2008 - Bellevue, WA


"Impacting Lives for Life"

10th Annual Safe Passage Breakfast

Eastside Domestic Violence Program (EDVP)


Keynote Speaker: Lane Judson


Emcee: Molly Sheen of KOMO 4 TV


Honorary Chairs: Marilyn McKenna and her husband, Washington State Attorney General Rob McKenna.


Location: Meydenbauer Center in downtown Bellevue

Please RSVP to: 425-562-8840 ext. 253 or
For more information click


  Sep 29 - Oct 1, 2008 - Jackson Hole, WY



10th Annual Wyoming Victim Services Conference


Creating a Better Community Response


for Victims of Crime



Snow King Resort, Jackson Hole Wy


Sponsor: Division of Victim Services, Wyoming Office of the Attorney General


Phone: (307) 777-7200

Web Site:



  May 6, 2008 - Niagra Falls, NY


10TH Annual "Safe At Home" Conference:

Seeking Solutions For Adult And Child Victims Of Family Violence

Niagara Falls, NY 14301

Lane Judson shares daughter's story with Anita Provenzano, an advocate against domestic violence for Lockport police.



From grief comes a vital message about family violence


Man promotes training after daughter's murder at hands of


police chief


The Buffalo News

By Nancy A. Fischer


...Judson has turned the family tragedy into a mission..."When something like this happens, you are devastated," Judson told The Buffalo News. "What do you do? Get mad, get angry, or do something so that others like Crystal won't have to go through the same thing"... The 200 attendees at the conference were moved... "If I've touched one person, that's what this is all about," he said... Other speakers and presenters included Michelle M. Garcia, executive director of the Stalking Resource Center in Washington, D. C... L. Turkel, senior attorney at the National Center for Prosecution of Child Abuse and a former police officer and assistant district attorney; Luther K. Robinson Jr., associate professor of pediatrics at the University at Buffalo School of Medicine... and David Heffler, a clinical forensic psychologist with 30 years' experience in the treatment of sexual offenders, domestic violence and substance abuse...

Sponsored by: Niagara County Family Violence Intervention Project




  Apr 26, 2008 - Gig Harbor, WA



Crystal's Candlelight


held at Peninsula Christian Fellowship Church

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 Youtube videos: 1 & 2



Apr 24, 2008 - Pierce County, WA


Lane Judson talks to Pierce County News regarding the Men Against Violence Conference at PLU, and getting the word out about domestic violence

See the video here



  Apr 22, 2008 - Portland, OR


2008 Child Abuse & Family Violence Summit

CLAC & Family Violence Conference


"The Power of One in Collaboration with Others"

Clackamas County Sheriffs Office

Speakers included:

  • Tacoma Police Cpt. Tom Strickland - "Officer Involved Domestic Violence: the Emerging Crisis"
  • Lane Judson  - "Joint Workshop: Losing A Child To Domestic Violence"
  • Regional Public Safety Academy Deputy Chief of Training , Fort Wayne Indiana's Dottie Davis - "Searching for the Hidden Truths"



  Apr 10-11, 2008 - Tacoma, WA


"He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not" -

Men Against Violence

Pacific Lutheran University Regional Conference, Tacoma, WA

Exploring men's roles in ending violence against women. The conference featured presentations from leading experts.

Featured speakers include Ben Atherton-Zeman, spokesperson for the National Organization for Men Against Sexism, and Lane and Patty Judson, parents of domestic violence victim Crystal Judson. Judson was fatally shot five years ago by her husband, then Tacoma Police Chief David Brame in a Gig Harbor parking lot.

The goal of the conference was to provide a NW regional conference that explores men's role in ending violence against women. Though they are few, opportunities like this allow professionals in the field and others in the community to examine how we might all address this pandemic.




 Nov 2007 - Gig Harbor, WA





Oct 27-31, 2007 - Orlando, FL


The National College of District Attorneys

17th Annual National Multidisciplinary Conference on Domestic Violence

The Conference theme, Reclaiming Our Lives, Revealing Our Secrets, honored the incredible strength and tenacity required for survivors to reach out and overcome the greatest of adversities; to reclaim their lives, without losing sight of the fact that, in order to succeed, they must endure an incredible invasion of their privacy - revealing their secrets. In addition to featured speakers, motivational panel discussions with survivors and families of domestic violence victims offered an excellent opportunity to look constructively and critically at our progress in the area of DV prosecution as well as areas in need of improvement.



Oct 24, 2007 - McChord Air Force Base, WA


Domestic Violence






The featured speaker for the event is Mr. Lane Judson.


McChord Clubs and Community Center


Info: 982-9038 or 982-9043



 Oct 20, 2007 - Sumner, WA

 Mothers of Preschoolers

In honor of domestic violence month

Sumner Presbyterian Church

MOPS hosted Lane and Patty Judson for a one hour discussion on domestic violence in our community, the Crystal Judson Family Justice Center, and warning signs of domestic violence.

Location: Snelling Hall.



Oct 17, 2007




  Oct 11-12, 2007 Albany, NY






New York and


Domestic Violence Policy

and Strategies

Friday, October 12, 2007,

at The Well, in The New York State Legislative Officer Building, Albany NY

Free & Open to the public

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Liza's Legacy's 2007 Hope Award

"Lane Judson, with his wife Patty, came to Albany New York to be our honored Keynote Speaker during our 2nd Annual Liza's Legacy Gala - 'Remembering Liza' - and were presented with our first Liza's Legacy of Hope Award..."

 Note: The Gala was the evening before the Conference



Oct 4, 2007 - Bangor Trident Sub-Base, WA





 Aug 25, 2007 - Port Orchard, WA


2nd Annual

"Crystal Challenge" Golf Tournament

The Crystal Judson Brame Memorial Scholarship Foundation hosted the second annual "Crystal Challenge" golf tournament, at McCormick Woods golf course. The foundation in Crystal Judson Brame's honor raises money to provide scholarships to high school students. Please visit for more information, e-mail at or by calling 425.590.7865.


The Crystal Judson Brame Memorial Scholarship fund was established by Crystal's former classmates.



Jun 28, 2007





  Jun 13, 2007 - Port Orchard, WA


The Port Orchard Chapter of the Washington Federation of Business and Professional Women hosts a presentation and talk by Patty and Lane Judson on "Domestic Violence: Past, Present and Future"

to share the life and experiences of their daughter, Crystal Judson Brame, a victim of domestic violence who was murdered by her husband, who was David Brame, Tacoma chief of police at the time. He committed suicide after shooting her.

Time: 6 p.m.

Place: Purple Fig Catering in Port Orchard, formerly the Wedding Chapel.

Cost: $20, including dinner.

Reservations: Seating is limited and reservations are required.

Info & Tickets: Call DeLona at (360) 871-0208 or Marcia at (360) 871-2148.

Washington Federation of Business and Professional Women

Women helping Women, Personally, Politically & Professionally since 1919.



 MAY 4TH, 2007 - Tacoma, WA





APR 9, 2007 - Lakewood, WA




..."And if we can just change one life, one thought, that may have been going astray to stop and think, that's what we're after," said Crystal's father Lane Judson. His presentation to an audience of student-athletes was part of the Coaching Boys Into Men program. At Hudtloff, students are given lessons about understanding and preventing domestic and dating violence at the start of each sport season...

 [Source: "If we can help save someone, that's what it's all about" - KOMO, Kevin Reece, Apr 10, 2007]


Youtube videos:

Lane Judson to middleschoolers & Lane at Lakewood  



  Mar 28-30, 2007 - Gig Harbor, WA


"Communities, Caring and Connecting." -


Gig Harbor Criminal Justice Summit,


Gig Harbor Wesley Inn

This summit draws law enforcement, government officials, courts and non-profit advocacy groups together for three days of sessions to learn the art of "communities caring and connecting."



JAN 20, 2007 - Gig Harbor, WA






NOV 18 2006 - Bremerton, WA



Saturday Social Brunch  

November 18th at FRA#29  


Subvets, families, and friends are welcome. Brunch social starts at 10 AM followed by a presentation about 11 AM on domestic violence by Lane and Patty Judson, parents of Crystal Brame. Crystal, age 35, was shot in her car by her husband David Brame, Tacoma Chief of Police on April 26, 2003 in front of their children. David then turned the gun on himself and committed suicide.  Crystal later died from her wounds in Harborview Medical Center, leaving their two young children orphans.  Out of that tragedy, Crystal's parents are speaking out against domestic violence.


Lane Judson is a submarine veteran.  He served from 1952-1957 and did a stint with a Reserve Submarine Group until 1960.   


The cost of the brunch is $10 paid at the door.

Guests are encouraged to attend.



NOV 3, 2006 - Gig Harbor, WA






First Speaker: "Domestic Violence is not a Private Matter"

Presenters: Lane Judson & Crystal Judson Family Justice Center


Washington Corrections Center for Women

9601 Bujacich Road NW

Gig Harbor, WA 98332-8300
(253) 858-4200



OCT 25, 2006 - Everett, WA





  Oct 12, 2006 - Fort Lewis, WA


Domestic Violence


Impact Panel &


Candlelight Vigil Service


Four Chaplains Memorial Chapel

Fort Lewis, Washington


Keynote Speakers:

Patty and Lane Judson



I Got Flowers Today


By Paulette Kelly

Read by Jackie Seabrook


I got flowers today.

It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.

We had our first argument last night,

And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.

I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said.

Because he sent me flowers today.


I got flowers today.

It wasn't our anniversary any other special day.

Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me.

It seemed like a nightmare.

I couldn't believe it was real.

I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.

I know he must be sorry.

Because he sent me flowers today.


I got flowers today,

and it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day.

Last night, he beat me up again.

And it was much worse than all the other times.

If I leave him, what will I do?

How will I take care of my kids?

What about money?

I'm afraid of him and scared to leave.

But I know he must be sorry.

Because he sent me flowers today.


I got flowers today.

Today was a very special day.

It was the day of my funeral.

Last night, he finally killed me.

He beat me to death.

If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him,

I would not have gotten




 OCT 5, 2006 - WA





 SEP 28, 2006 - Ft. Lewis, WA





  Sep 16, 2006 - Tacoma, WA


Golf Tournament to Support


Scholarship Endowment Fund

The Crystal Challenge Golf Tournament, September 16th, at Meadow Park Golf Course in Tacoma.


The Crystal Judson Brame Memorial Scholarship fund was established by Crystal's former classmates.




 Aug 14, 2006






Aug 3, 2006 - Ft. Lewis, WA





  Jul 26, 2006 - Seattle, WA


Seattle Press Conference

University of Washington's Mens Domestic Abuse Checkup   


"...The project is supported by Lane Judson..."

"Each of us has a duty to stop abusive behavior whether it's a mental abuse, emotional abuse or physical abuse... I am hopeful this study will find better ways to reach out to families who are hurting before it's too late."(1) ..."I'm here to say that if you have a son, a brother, a father, a friend, a co-worker, someone that you know who you think is hurting someone or their partner . . . Please help them make this call."Judson says he doesn't know if David Brame would have called, or if this program would have saved Crystal. But he said: "Maybe, maybe with such a program they would be still be alive"... (2)

(1): UW study looks at men who abuse partners, Stacey Mulick, The News Tribune, 7/26/2006

(2) Ads Ask Abusive Men To Get A 'Domestic Violence Checkup, KOMO, Bryan Johnson, 7/26/2006



July 20, 2006 - Whidbey Island, WA


Domestic Violence Presentation from Oak Harbor Chamber of Commerce


Naval Air Station Whidbey Island

Keynote Speaker: Lane Judson. (Cleared for base entrance at the gate)

Whidbey Island Skywarrior Theater.



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Family's tragedy inspires program

The Daily Herald

July 19, 2006

Hear Lane Judson speak about his family's domestic violence tragedy at 10 a.m. Thursday at Naval Air Station Whidbey Island... Judson is the father of the late Crystal Brame, who was shot in her car by her husband, Tacoma Police Chief David Brame, on April 26, 2003. He then turned the gun on himself. Crystal Brame died May 3, 2003, in Harborview Medical Center, leaving two young children. Lane and Patty Judson, Crystal Brame's parents, are speaking out against domestic violence.


Victim's father speaks out


Northwest Navigator

By Terese Toennies

Community Support Marketing

Friday, August 4, 2006

On May 3, 2003, doctors disconnected the machines that were keeping 35-year-old Crystal Judson alive... Lane and Patty Judson couldn't save their daughter; she had no brain activity and no chance for survival. They didn't say goodbye, instead, they promised Crystal they would see her down the road... Lane Judson spoke at the Skywarrior Theater on July 20 to talk about the signs that, in hindsight, forecasted a brutal end to the marriage... "Let me reassure you that domestic violence is not a private matter, and it is a most terrible crime that can and will lead to death if not acted upon quickly and with the right types of professional help. Domestic violence is a crime and needs to be reported if you see it or hear of it"... [More]



Jul 18, 2006 - Seattle, WA




University of Washington's Mens Domestic Abuse Checkup   





Jul 13,2006 - Everett, WA





 Jun 6, 2006 - Tacoma, WA





  May 17, 2006 - Aberdeen, WA


"Don't let what happened to Crystal


happen to someone else "


Grays Harbor Domestic Violence Center

The Grays Harbor Community College Human Services Club in conjunction with the Grays Harbor Domestic Violence Center is pleased to present: Lane and Patty Judson. This event is open to the public and members of the community are encouraged to attend to hear their powerful story. Please come and be a part of a special evening. Their belief is, "If we can touch one person through our service, then we're doing the right thing by my daughter."



  May 12, 2006 - Gig Harbor, WA


Patty & Lane Judson spoke at Fundraiser for I.M.Pact House.





I.M.Pact House holds successful fund-raiser

Vol. 33 Issue 6

By Hugh McMillan

JUNE 2006 Issue

More than 100 people attended the first-ever fund-raising effort in May by supporters of I.M.Pact House, the Key Peninsula's domestic violence shelter home. Penny Gazabat, I.M.Pact House executive director and Key Pen resident, said, "We asked Patty and Lane Judson to speak at the luncheon because it is important for our community to hear from them after the 2003 murder of their daughter, Crystal, at the hands of her husband, former Tacoma Police Chief David Brame. It is important for our community to know what has happened in the wake of this tragedy and to shed light on the need to have local domestic violence resources available in every community." Patty Judson shared with the audience the daughter she and husband Lane had presented to the world, the young woman whose life was ended by the tactics of an abuser. Silence filled the room as she began to describe Crystal as a vibrant, intelligent, beautiful young woman who accomplished many goals she set for herself... Judson described David Brame's control tactics after they married. She said he used intimidation, isolation, humiliation, emotional and physical abuse along with economic control... Judson's message to the audience was to learn the "red flags of abuse so that the people we care about can live a life free of domestic violence." Lane Judson spoke of his promise to his daughter the day she died of a gunshot wound to her head. He said it "took two and a half years to get the ‘Crystal Clear Act,' Senate Bill 6161, passed to provide national protocols for officer-involved domestic violence"...

(Full article here: )



  May 9, 2006 





  Apr 19, 2006 - Bangor Trident Sub-Base, WA



Family Violence Workshop

Briggs Auditorium, Naval Base Kitsap - Bangor's Trident Training Facility

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Victim speaks out on domestic violence
Northwest Navigator
By Jo Hodges Pone III
Friday, April 28, 2006

The Counseling Advocacy and Prevention Services (CAPS) program at Naval Base Kitsap in Keyport held a family and domestic violence seminar at the Trident Training Facility, April 19, with Lane Judson as the guest speaker... CAPS Chief Clinical Supervisor for the West Sound, Beverly Barron, said Judson's speech was part of Child Abuse Awareness Month. She said having him speak was a way to open eyes on the subject of domestic violence... Barron said she was thankful to have Judson reach out to the servicemembers with his story and commended him on their courage to speak out. "It was a touching experience. He reached the hearts of the audience," Barron said...



 Apr 7, 2006 - Everett, WA


Candlelight Vigil For Sexual-Assault Victims


Held at First Presbyterian Church

2936 Rockefeller Ave, Everett


Keynote Address by Lane Judson, whose daughter Crystal was killed by her husband, then-Tacoma Police Chief David Brame


Short presentations by Everett Mayor Ray Stephanson, Snohomish County Prosecuting Attorney Janice Ellis and state Rep. Al O'Brien


Event put on by Providence Everett Sexual Assault Center



  Jan 24th, 2006 - Silverdale, WA


"I Love You to Death"

An educational forum, hosted by The Kitsap Domestic Violence Task Force at the Silverdale Lutheran Church.

Guest speakers Lane and Patty Judson.

Domestic Violence Crusade Comes to Kitsap
By Julie McCormick,
January 26, 2006... Lane Judson expressed respect rather than bitterness toward police professionals - many of whom were in his audience — and lauded their work and the personal services he and his family received after the tragedy. "We have made some pretty good friends with police officers," said Judson, fighting back tears at the mention of one who visited Crystal in the hospital and held her hand regularly until she died. The Judsons' visit was sponsored by the Kitsap County Domestic Violence Task Force, led for the past few years by Bremerton police Detective Sue Shultz... [More]

Turning Tide of Domestic Abuse in Law Enforcement, Kitsap Sun, January 27, 2006 ...On Tuesday, Lane and Patty Judson told their story at an educational forum in Silverdale sponsored by the Kitsap Domestic Violence Task Force. Their presentation drew a large audience - testimony to local concerns about domestic violence, and the numerous persons it has affected...[More]



  Jan 20th, 2006 - Tacoma WA


Crystal Judson Family Justice Center Grand Opening


Tacoma City Council Member Connie Ladenburg, U.S. Senator Maria Cantwell, Pierce County Executive John Ladenburg,, U.S. Representatives Norm Dicks and Dave Reichert, with Lane Judson at Grand Opening ceremonies for the Crystal Judson Family Justice Center.


Family, supporters savor success at opening of Crystal Judson center

The News Tribune

Kathleen Merryman

January 21st, 2006

[Excerpt] ...He'll never know exactly which lives Crystal Judson's legacy saves. He can be certain that every year, domestic violence survivors will owe their breath to the center named for his daughter. [Article]


Videos on Youtube from the Grand Opening:  Lane Judson, Councilman Rick Talbert, Senator Maria Cantwell about Crystal & her family, Ribbon Cutting, Congressman Norm Dicks to Crystal's family, Congressman Dave Reichert, more



 Nov 7, 2005 - Tacoma, WA








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